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Successful Relating
Fulfillment through Connection and Community
Allice G. Vlietstra, Ph.D. Editor
March, 2006
In this issue:
1. Welcome
We will explore this topic in the next three e-newsletters. One of the greatest strengths you and your family can bring to business and your life are your values. When translated into behavior, they form a Code of Honor. It is what makes teams great and is the cornerstone for family and business success.
2. The Code of Honor
It is something deep. It shows its face when the pressure is on and when the stakes are high. It shows up when we are put to the test and have to deliver. It is what Blair Singer calls, a “Code of Honor.” A Code of Honor is a set of powerful values and beliefs that we are willing to take a stand and defend - to be accountable for. They are heart and spirit of any successful organization. They are values acted upon, the values that are extended into real, physical behavior. It's the little things, like "deal direct," focus on what works, take responsibility, acknowledge and say "Thank You" and it's the big things, like the Declaration of Independence.
3. Uplifting Power
It also defines the "glue" that holds a family or team together, In every family and business, conflict ALWAYS will arise. It can destroy a group or it can pull the group to work together at a higher level. When "push comes to shove," individuals can criticize and blame each other or they can choose to take personal responsibility to do what is needed. It is a shared code holds individuals accountable to do their work. While values help us define our higher ideals, they also help acknowledge our humanity. We all have moments when life goes crazy. A set of rules with clearly defined values, developed in the SANE moments, helps us see our way through it.
4. Your Code of Honor
Are you committed to being your best? All of us have a greatness waiting to be revealed. The challenge is to find it, develop it, train it and use it to better your life and those around you. In the same way family has strengths that are deeply meaningful That are a benefit to the community. They can be discovered by listening to the challenges that have been overcome, the stories, and the struggles faced by previous generations. Another way to get CLUES is to take "Values in Action" survey at www.authentichappiness.org and have family members take it as well. It will help you identify your signature strengths as well as those those in your family. Then check them out and see if they really apply to your experiences. Do you want to bring out the best of yourself, your family, and your team. Then make a conscious decision to create a context with a Code of Honor to make it happen. This will be the focus of the next two e-newsletters which focus on identifying and playing strengths in the context of developing a Code.
Warm Regards,
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5. Announcements
© Copyright 2006 Alice Vlietstra. All rights reserved. You have my permission to forward this newsletter to those who might be interested. To subscribe: E-mail alice@successfulrelating.com and put subscribe in the subject line. To unsubscribe: e-mail alice@successfulrelating.com and put unsubscribe in the subject line. About Dr. Alice Alice Vlietstra, Ph.D., formerly of the University of Missouri St. Louis, was first trained as a researcher in Human Development. This training provides the integrative developmental focus of her work. Currently, she works as a family psychologist, coach, and family business consultant. As a graduate of the Authentic Happiness coaching program, she is trained in promoting the positive. As a certified practitioner of mind-body techniques, AFT and NET, she is also highly skilled in understanding and releasing our blueprints from early childhood conditioning. This combination leads to high-powered strategies for enhancing our well being by advancing our consciousness.
Alice Vlietstra, Ph.D. |